If you have genital herpes, you may believe that dating is impossible; this could be due to other’s telling you this or you may have talked yourself out of dating. The real truth is that people who have herpes should not abandon their search for love and happiness!
Genital herpes should not override everything about you and what people already find attractive about you. Your whole life shouldn’t change just because you have genital herpes! It is, in fact, dating someone with herpes is easy and possible for your herpes life.
Genital Herpes Facts
Most don’t know this, but: 1 in 5 people in America actually have genital herpes, it’s just that most people are not aware they have it, due to having little to no observable symptoms. We all know herpes can be spread by sexual contact, but don’t forget about the other type of herpes that cause cold sores to form can also infect the genitals via oral sex. There is currently no cure, so it’s important to arm yourself with facts as your first line of protection.
Bringing-up the topic of Genital Herpes
Going through the tradition means of getting back into the dating scene after being diagnosed with herpes can be scary, lacking the confidence you had before because you’re afraid of rejection. You may feel like you’re keeping a secret from your potential date. The timing of when to tell the person you’re going out with that you have genital herpes seems like an extremely nerve-wracking concept.
Thankfully, there are dating sites that are created especially for people who already have herpes. This can relieve so much of the stress and uncomfortable dating situations with people who don’t know your secret ahead of time.
Ultimately, you decide when, where, and how you tell the person you’re dating that you have genital herpes. Just avoid making it a surprise before or after you have sex; which should go without saying, but love can be an intoxicating thing and cause you to make bad decisions.
I would say that once you get to the point where you are participating in a lot of physical caressing and contact that you break the news before things get serious. Not only is this a good time to prevent a more awkward scenario in the bedroom, but you should be at the point where the other person has gotten to know you much better and will be less likely to judge you for not advertising it off the bat.
“You never know what you’re gonna get”
You should always be prepared for rejection. People handle situations in different ways and you never quite know how they will react to something, especially with so much ignorance about the subject. Of course, revealing that you have herpes may also provide an easy scapegoat for someone who didn’t really connect with you in the first place. It will be a true test of your relationship, and that can be invaluable at the first stages of dating.
Anyone who takes the ugly way out by ridiculing and judging you right off the bat for having herpes is likely someone you would regret dating, even if you didn’t have herpes. Unconditional love is a foreign concept nowadays, so if you find a mate who doesn’t skip a beat in how much they want to be with you, even after learning you have genital herpes, they are pretty much a keeper.
There are plenty of fish in the sea
As briefly mentioned before, times have changed and it now much easier to find a relationship with genital herpes. By joining 1 of the many dating sites for people with herpes, you can skip the whole cat and mouse game with people who don’t(knowingly) have herpes and start dating people who have herpes to find your match immediately, based on personality and real chemistry.
Although it may feel like it sometimes when you’re dating with herpes, having genital herpes is hardly “one of the greatest obstacles” when trying to find a relationship. A search on the Internet for “herpes dating” will turn up several great communities that you can join. Herpes dating sites all work exactly the same as the popular dating sites like match.com, plentyoffish, eharmony, and etc.
You will soon find that these herpes dating sites will provide you tons of support and confidence that you may lack. Not just support for getting “hooked-up” with other people, but really good advice and information that will keep you grounded and show you that you’re not alone!
They say beauty is only skindeep; well, if you want a lasting relationship, you need to find someone who will accept you for who you are, not what you are or what you have. Honesty is the key to all relationships and if the person you are dating cannot see value in yours then you are better off without them.